Self-worth: valuing that you are equal to anyone you interact with. Self-esteem: believing in your worth.
What would change for you if this was your truest, most valued, most trusted belief?
Our limiting beliefs are truly our biggest obstacle to achieving anything that we desire because they attack our self-worth. When we don’t feel worthy, we don’t do the things we want to do because we don’t believe in ourselves; we don’t value our worth.
Tony Robbins says, “it’s not the events of our lives that shape us, but our beliefs as to what those events mean.” What we do is often driven by our beliefs. We get attached to the beliefs that we have of ourselves, whether it’s negative or positive. That is why it is so difficult to change the way we think about ourselves. We get very comfortable with those beliefs, and at times, the fear prevents us from doing the things that we want to do, or what we need to do. Our limiting beliefs and what we think of ourselves become our excuses to moving forward.
If you believe that you are not smart enough to do something, you won’t do it. Your self-worth makes you believe or not believe that you are of equal value to everyone else. If you believe everyone is smarter, will you do that thing you want to do? For most, the answer is no.
If you believe you are not a capable of losing weight, you won’t do it. Maybe you have tried many diets that haven’t worked and you have developed a belief that you will always be overweight. Your self-worth makes you believe that you don’t have what it takes. If you believe that losing weight will never happen for you, based on past experiences, will you keep working the work to the lose the weight? For most, the answer is no.
Maybe you have been around negativity so long that you have developed a belief that there is nothing positive in the world.
Maybe you have developed a belief that you are not worthy of love, so you will never find love.
Maybe you have developed a belief that you don’t have a perfect body, so you hate your body.
These limiting beliefs are what is holding you back and keeping you stuck. They diminish how worthy you feel. It isn’t just about releasing your limiting beliefs in order to move forward, but also ensuring that you value just how worthy you are. What worked for me was to challenge my limiting beliefs, release them and replace them with positive ones.
YOU NEED TO BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
How can you be happy if you don’t believe you deserve to be happy?
How can you attract more positivity, if you are constantly thinking toxic thoughts?
How can you be healthy if you don’t believe that you can be healthy?
How can you have the relationships you want if you don’t believe you deserve them, or you don’t think you are good enough?
How can you achieve your desires, in any area of your life, if you don’t think you are capable?
You have to open yourself up to the awareness of your limiting beliefs, your tiny mad ideas, before you can start to choose new positive thoughts – plant new seeds. You have to keep them from taking root and becoming shackles that weigh you down and keep you stuck. To overcome your limiting beliefs you need to accept that they are there, learn to live with them, give them shit when they start talking smack, and replace them with new loving beliefs. You do this by constantly reminding yourself that self-worth is valuing that you are equal to everyone.
What would you start doing and who would you be if you believed you were worthy and it knew it didn’t matter what anyone thinks?
Laurie-ann Sheldrick, The Contagiously Positive Girl