Lately I have been experiencing a feeling like things are too good to be true and waiting for the other shoe to drop. It sort of feels like fear…like what if this all gets taken away? Oh, those tricky what if future-tripping thoughts.
It has made me think of how deeply rooted our fears go.
We have fears when things are not going well in our lives. Fearing that it will never get better. And we have fears when things are going well in our lives, fearing that it won’t last.
Thankfully, the work I’ve been doing over the past 20 years has prepared me for this emotional discomfort. I sat with these feelings and asked myself “how can I make sure that these fears don’t turn into panic? How can I prevent myself from self sabotaging when things are going really well and just fully embrace this joyful time?”
I mustn’t feel alone in this. I’m sure there are other people who have similar fears. We are never alone in our thoughts.
When good things happen to you, do you find yourself saying that it is too good to be true, always waiting for the other shoe to drop? Missing out on the moment because you don’t trust it to be real, or to stay.
You are not alone.
Here is what I’ve learned and what I want to share with you today.
Good things can happen to you and for you. It is not too good to be true. There is no shoe waiting to drop a bomb on your happiness. Good things, happy things, loving things, are just as true and real as any challenges you have experienced.
Anything that fills your heart with joy and love is true and real. Anything that sets your soul on fire is true and real.
Even when something challenging or painful comes along, and it will, of course it will, those amazing moments and memories can never be taken away from you. They are a part of you. A part of your soul. A part of your heart. The only way they can be taken from is if you give them away. Keep them in your memory bank and let them be the happy moments that remind you that things can and will get better when times are tough.
So when your fear of the other shoe dropping shows up, focus on how grateful you are for every joyful thing that is happening.
Revel in it.
Love into it.
Be grateful for it.
Oh yes, have so much gratitude for the moment because it made you smile, or laugh, gave you butterflies in your tummy, or made your heart skip a beat.
And always keep this close to your heart…it is not too good to be true, it is simply just true.