We grow up hearing not to trust strangers, and not to trust anyone but our parents. My parents taught me not to trust strangers and they definitely gave me a compass to follow, but they were amazing at letting me make my own decisions and mistakes. I don’t recall them nagging me, or telling me, “it’s either my way, or the highway.” They would tell me the dangers, of course, but it always came in the form of communication, not yelling or forcing their own agenda. Because of this, I had the opportunity very early on to build my own trust muscles. I made a lot of mistakes along the way, and I’m sure I made my parents cringe and bite their tongue at some of the decisions I’ve made, but it taught me very valuable lessons. It taught me how to follow my own inner compass. It taught me how to get back up and try again. It taught me that failure, even though it can feel like the end of the world, has valuable, priceless lessons built into it. When I left the nest, it taught me how to make decisions for myself, without needing constant validation, or feeling fear around making the “wrong” decision. I think I’ve always been a risk taker. For some, that doesn’t exciting, but for me, taking risks lights up my soul. For that, I’m so grateful to my parents. To all of my parents, I have deep gratitude for teaching me how to fly on my own.
The Power of T.R.U.S.T.
This five-letter word can be difficult to put faith into. Especially when things don’t seem to be going our way. Whether it is trusting in ourselves; someone else, or just trusting in our life purpose, it can feel like a challenge at times.
Why is it so difficult? Putting ourselves out there means we might fail. Trusting someone with our heart means risking getting hurt. Trusting that everything happens for a reason means being vulnerable and letting go of something we cherish, or an old dream that we had for ourselves. These all seem like really scary reasons not trust, but what happens if we don’t?
Why is it important to trust? If we don’t put ourselves out there it means not achieving our most passionate dreams and desires. Not trusting someone with our heart means never falling in love, or meeting our best friend. Not trusting that everything happens for a reason means that we are missing out on life’s most amazing lessons and we are not living to our truest potential and purpose.
When my husband and I made the decision to relocate 3500 km away, to Saskatoon, I was often asked how I could have made the decision to move so quickly. We barely hesitated when the opportunity arose.
Some of the questions were:
How do you know that it will work out?
How do you know you will be happy?
What about your family and friends? Aren’t you afraid of losing them?
Here is my answer to all those questions. It would work out because Jason and I would make it work. I would be happy because happiness is the attitude I choose. It is, and always will be, my choice. I trust wholeheartedly that my family and friends want me to follow my heart and experience life. I trust that no distance will ever erase my love for them, or their love for me. I TRUST
My entire life I have tried to put myself out there and live outside the box. I have made lots of wrong turns, but I’ve tried to believe that those “wrong” turns haven’t been as wrong as I thought. They have been my life lessons. Every road, every turn, every curve, every hill, every mountain, and every decision, good or bad, is just one step closer to where I am suppose to be. That is how I try to live my life…TRUSTing
If trust is difficult for you, you have to work at and build it up. Like a muscle, building trust takes time, patience, and work. Things are going to happen that will put the seed of doubt deep in your mind and we must have daily tools that we can use to constantly build our “trust muscle.” Below are some of my personal tips to help you build your own “trust muscle.”
Take The Plunge. Continue to take on opportunities, even though you don’t have a crystal ball. You might fail, or it might not turn out to be what you expected. Either way, it is a lesson that gets you one step closer to another opportunity, and possibly your truest desires. When you sit idly by, waiting for life to happen, nothing happens. If there is something that you really want, but you have been doubting your inner compass, I challenge you to just take the first step.
“You can’t just sit there and wait for people to give you that golden dream. You’ve got to get out there and make it happen for yourself.”
Clarity. Get clear about what you want. When we know deep down in the pit of our stomachs, what we truly want, and what are core values are, trust isn’t an issue. We will move heaven and earth to get it, and believe it is possible. There are no doubts, no questions, no what ifs – just pure universal trust. Grab a pen and paper, choose one area of your life, and start writing all the things that you want. If it is a new career, create your entire ideal career vision. What does it look like? Right now, don’t worry about how you will get it, just create the vision of it. Trust me, the how will show up.
“Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait and wait without anxiety.”
A course in Miracles
Trusting In Love. If you struggle with trust in a relationship, remember why you fell in love with that person in the first place. When you remember that, you will cherish each other and trusting each other will come naturally. You have to trust yourself to love, trust that your pattern will love you and trust that you deserve no less. If that relationship comes to an end, trust that another love is just around the corner.
Leave The Past Behind. We don’t have the power to change the past or to look into the future. All we have is the here and now. When we bring our past into our present we do not trust that things can change, or be different. We believe only in our past. When we live in the here now, we are choosing to write our own story, and select our own course. To do this, we must trust that we have the power to do both. Everyday, be grateful that you have another day make a course correction. What life story do you wish to rewrite today? What course are you going to decide to take? The choice is always yours and it needs to be made in the present, not the past and not the future. Your past does not define you. That also includes mistakes. Just because it didn’t work out before, doesn’t mean you give up. What can you do differently? What did you learn?
“What blocks you from knowing is your lack of commitment to the energy of the universe.”
Gabrielle Bernstein, Add More Ing To Your Life
When you know that things happen for a reason, trust comes naturally. You have no doubt that there is something better around the corner, just waiting for you to arrive and accept it. Every job has taught me something that has led me to where I am today. Every city I’ve moved to, I’ve met amazing people that I was meant to meet and would not have met otherwise. Every relationship, the good and the bad, led me to my husband. Every mistake I’ve made, and there have been many, has taught me about myself and has given me the most amazing lessons. I trust in the lessons of life. This knowingness has brought me so much peace. I have absolute trust that I will be given what and who I need in my life – when and where I most need it.
“Life is written in your favour.”
Sending you oodles of positivity, happiness & joy,
Laurie-ann Sheldrick, The Contagiously Positive Girl