I read a really amazing book a few months back and I didn’t use any of the tools recommended. The book was inspiring, it made me feel good reading it, and it was a lot of new stuff for my toolbox. But I didn’t practice one exercise or tool. My inner guide gently spoke to me, “the tools don’t work if you don’t use them.”
If we want to stay mentally, spiritually, physically, emotionally and attitudinally strong, we have to use what we’ve got, and not just once, but consistently. You don’t go to the gym once and have muscles for life. It takes commitment, practice, and making a conscious choice.
The subconscious brain works on autopilot. The more we practice, the more action we take, the more we nourish our bodies, feed our mind with positivity, react, act, and decide in ways that serve us, the more our brain will just automatically continue doing what we want it to do without it feeling like work.
Let’s dive into this even deeper with some examples.
If you fill your fridge with healthy food and every day you go to your fridge and choose a healthy option, telling yourself that it is nourishing your body, that consistent conscious (I’m aware of what I’m choosing) choice gets stored into your subconscious mind (your memory bank choosing without you even being aware). After a while, you go to the fridge, your subconscious brain scans the food, and it determines what feels good for you to eat based on your past choices. If you have been consistently eating healthy food, it will automatically send signals throughout your body and choose without struggle. If you have been consistently eating unhealthy food, it will feel like a struggle to eat the good stuff, even though consciously you know you should, because it choosing on autopilot.
Let’s explore another example.
If every single time you approach something new, let’s say public speaking, and you tell yourself that it is scary, you can’t do it, or you are going to freeze, that is what is being programmed into your subconscious mind. Overtime, that becomes automatic and you don’t believe that anything else could be true. So what happens is that even though you do it all the time, you will continue to have the same fearful response because you haven’t told yourself (your subconscious) a new story. When you have to public speak, your subconscious brains scans the memory bank, only sees that it is unsafe to public speak (because it is all you have been telling it), and you react by default. You might think, “When am I going to stop being so afraid of public speaking?” The answer is simple, but not always easy. You have to consciously and repeatedly, tell yourself that it isn’t scary; that you can do it, and that you won’t freeze. Overtime, a new story is stored into your subconscious mind. One day you go to public speak, your subconscious scans your memory bank, sees that it is safe and you are good to go.
Even though consciously in both of those scenarios you know what you want to experience, your subconscious overrides it because it reacts based on what is programmed.
If you are into vampire movies, think of it as compelling yourself. A vampire compels someone to do something. Even though consciously the person doesn’t want to do that thing it is compelled to do it, the subconscious mind is in control and can’t help but doing it. In the work I share in UNLEASH Your Limiting Beliefs, I guide you into not just programming your brain to work for you, instead of against you, but bringing together both your conscious choices and subconscious choices so that they are both working for you in the present.
The best place to start is to put one thing into practice, or one subconscious override you want to commit to reprogramming. That is why using the tools matters so much. In order to program your brain to work for you, not against you, you have to consciously make choices that serve you, have the experience and emotional response, and create the memory, all so that you can create a new program into your subconscious mind so it works on autopilot. Now your conscious mind and subconscious mind are working together instead of against each other.
So if you want to stay mentally, spiritually, physically, emotionally and attitudinally strong, you have to work the muscles, and not just once, but consistently.
EXERCISE: USING YOUR TOOLS
What is one habit, thought, belief, behaviour, or attitude you want to change, but it has been feeling really challenging? Choose just that one thing and practice shifting the thought, belief, behaviour or attitude every single day. For a new habit, say working out, or eating healthy, in the beginning, force yourself to do it until it becomes habitual. For eating healthy, take away all the temptations. Forget about having willpower for the first couple of weeks. Willpower kicks in when the action becomes habitual. Eventually, both your mind and your body will want nothing else but to do that thing. Both will work, think, behave, and even respond as though your brain has been set to autopilot.
Let’s take the share above to our journals.
What is one area of your life where you feel like it has been impossible to shift your mind, a belief, attitude, negative thoughts, or even a healthy habit for your body?
How does it feel when you want to do something different, but you feel pulled to do the opposite? I often describe it as feeling mad hatter madness. Knowing consciously what I need to do, but I just can’t help it! Describe this.
Once you write it out, describe the belief, attitude, thoughts, or habits you want to have.
This will give you a starting point on what area you want to work on first. Whatever you wrote down for what you want, that is what you need to continue to do until it becomes subconscious program.
“Wisdom which comes from within is not nearly so easily discarded as wisdom that comes from another. You tend to hang on a lot longer to that which you’ve created than to that which you’ve been told.”Neale Donald Walsch, Conversations With God