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The stories that we tell are either supporting us, or holding us back. What is the narrative that you are living your life from? 


Since I can remember, I have been a procrastinator. I would leave everything until the last minute and then do a mad dash sprint to get it done just before the deadline. Studying for tests, completing assignments, starting projects, completing tasks – I would always leave it right until minutes before the end, then of course feel stressed out because I was being rushed. Rushing to get it done also affected the quality (poorly).

 

I have always disliked this about myself, but didn’t want to do anything to change it – or rather didn’t think I could because it felt like it was ingrained into my personality. It felt like it was just always going to be a part of my story.

 

One day my friend, Jolene Watson, who is a Myers Briggs Practitioner, took me through my assessment and apparently my type is prone to procrastinating. “Yay, I finally have an excuse”, I thought.  

 

It was the story I projected over and over and over again.  Instead of taking this as validation from my assessment, and sticking with the old story, I talked to Jolene about what I could do to change it. First of all, constantly replaying, “I’m just naturally a procrastinator” kept me in a procrastinating pattern. In Gabrielle’s Bernstein’s book, The Universe Has Your Back, she says, “Whatever stories you’re projecting in your mind are what you’re perceiving in your life.” Projection is perception as the Course In Miracles teaches.

 

To change the pattern, I had to create a new habit, which in turn would change my story. As Jolene explained, you need to take this “weakness” for lack of a better word, and push through it.

 

How do you do this?

Begin with awareness on your old story, and taking action on the new story you want to project.



Step 1: Awareness

Knowing that this is a part of your personality doesn’t mean you have to be that way, it just gives you the awareness of who you are, what your strengths are, and what your weaknesses are. Once you have the awareness, you can choose what you do next. For me, because I didn’t like this about myself, I decided to retrain my brain to not do that thing that was causing me stress. I created a new story. Enter new story: “I get everything done in the timing that it needs to be done with ease and flow.” 

 

Step 2: Take action on the new story I want to project

Every time I feel myself begin to go into my old story, I push myself to do the task I need to do. I now enjoy planning ahead, and love the feeling of completing tasks before they are due and I’m projecting a new story.

 

Here’s why I wanted to share this with you. Every single day we are projecting stories that we tell ourselves. What I want to focus on now are the stories that don’t support you and are keeping you stuck in a holding pattern, like ones that sound like this…

 

  • I’m not good enough

  • I don’t have enough

  • I will always be

  • I will only be happy when I have

  • I could never

  • I’m too afraid

  • I will never be able to

  • Who am I to think I could be or do

  • It’s always been this way, so it will probably always be this way

  • I can’t change now, I’m to old to learn something new

  • Who am I to think

  • That’s always been too hard for me

 

If any of these resonate with you, you are not alone. I’ve thought every single one these things. The stories we tell over and over again that keep us stuck are the ones that are not serving you. Just because you think it, just because it was that way before, doesn’t mean it has to be today’s reality.

 

Like Jolene taught me, just because your personality assessment states that your weakest in certain areas, doesn’t mean you can’t succeed. Knowing who you are helps you to work from a place of your greatest strengths. Knowing who you are, to your core, is key. Jolene says, “Don’t change your type, change your behaviour.” Meaning, ask yourself, “Is this behaviour serving me? Are these thoughts serving me? Are these believes serving me? Are these stories serving me? If the answer is no, it might be time to consider shifting gears.

 

  • What story are you narrating from?

  • What would happen if you started to tell a new story?

  • What would happen if you took what you might consider your weaknesses and turned them into your strengths?

  • What would change for you if you projected something positive so you could perceive yourself (or a situation) in a whole new positive light?

 

“You have a new story to write and it looks nothing like your past.” Danielle Laporte

 

Some of us are so caught up in our old stories that we don’t even realize that our life is on one big repeated loop. If you want to leave the past and come back to the present, you are going to have to let go of living in the stories of should’ve, would’ve, could’ve. You have the choice to be the heroine of your story. You can do this by embracing all the parts of who you were, who you are, who you will be, and who you want to be. Every life chapter has made you who you are today. When you can see how far you have come and all that you have already accomplished, you will be able to move forward with confidence.

 

SOUL ASSIGNMENT 

Grab your journal and let’s do a little inner work.

 

1: Think of an area in your life where you are feeling blocked. What is the current story you are projecting? Is this story coming from a limiting belief? Is this story coming from a place of fear? Is this story a part of your past? Are you taking your current default mode and using it as an excuse? Once you become aware of how your stories are becoming what you perceive to be truths, you can begin to change the old patterns that are blocking you.

 

2: Take all the old stories that are holding you back and write out a brand new story. Really focus on how you want to feel. Once you create a new empowering story that makes you feel the way you want to feel, take action on it. When you feel yourself going back to your old unsupportive patterns, redirect your thoughts and your actions. Overtime, you will have retrained your brain to project and perceive from a place of power, not fear or habit. I know this is a big topic, but start with these tiny baby steps. Begin by creating a new story.

 

  • What is the new story, or next chapter of your life going to be?

  • What do you want?

  • Who do you want to be?

  • What are your new wishes, desires, visions and dreams for your present life?

  • What’s the new narrative you are going to take action from?

  • And then, what can you do today, not yesterday, or tomorrow, to UNLEASH your inner contagiously positive?

 

All love,

Laurie-ann Sheldrick, The Contagiously Positive Girl

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