Achieving success without the stress. Is it possible? I believe it is.
Have you ever felt like you really had it all together, but then went on social media and were brought down by all the amazingness that other people are doing? You get into comparing mode, thinking you will never be able to achieve that, and start to question where you are and how you will ever get to where you want to go. Me too! And to be honest, it was just last week.
I was seeing all these posts on social media about how hustling and working endless hours are how they achieved their successes and financial abundance. It was a lot of advice on how you have to work, work, work, stress, stress, stress, hustle, hustle, hustle if you want to succeed. For a moment I thought, “I’m such a failure. I’m not doing any of that. Should I be further along in my business? Should I be more stressed? Should I put in more hours? Should I hustle and dive right back into the rat race to get what I want?” That was the saboteur voice talking. The saboteur loves to make me feel like I am not enough, will never have enough and will never be enough. My saboteur is a real jerk!
Thankfully, the smarter, older, wiser, happier side of brain (my Inner Guide) kicked into high gear and said, “do you really want to achieve your desires if it means burning yourself out?” The answer was so obviously no. But sometimes when we (I) look at all the fabulous things people are posting on social media, we (I) think, “can I get that, plus be happy?” The answer is yes. But it requires defining what success looks like to you. Not to other people, but to YOU.
Success to me is about feeling happy, healthy, abundant, free, joyful, and energized while I work to achieve my goals, not the other way around. I don’t want a financial goal to be what makes me feel happy. I want to feel happy – period. I don’t want a material possession to define my success. I want to be able to feel it without having everything that I want/need/desire yet. I want to be happy with just being happy. I know that if I am not happy now, if I am too stressed out, too burnt out, I won’t be able to enjoy it when it does arrive. Here is the thing, I believe that it will arrive, and I will enjoy it even more if the journey to working towards it is a joyful one.
I’ve already hustled, stressed, pushed, pulled and worked endless hours, and rat raced my way to try and achieve what I thought was success. That led me to burnout. I left that world behind, taking on a Contagiously Positive philosophy so that I could take a slower, happier, less stressful, more enjoyable pace to life. The sacrifices I used to make to try and “make it” were too great. I sacrificed my health, my happiness, time with my family and friends, and my sanity. When I used to rush, push, and force my way through life, I felt emotionally, physically, and spiritually depleted. There is no way I am going to exchange happiness for that. I don’t want to work just so I can enjoy one to two weeks of holidays every year and only be happy for two weeks out of 365 days, just to come back to work and be more stressed.
When you define what success means to you, you are able to see your life from a different perspective. You start to see and feel that success is so much more than money and material possessions. You start to understand that you don’t have to do what everyone else is doing if it doesn’t serve you or resonate with you. You don’t have to keep up with the Joneses. That isn’t to say that you won’t still work to achieve money and material possessions (do it, work towards it, desire it, take action to achieve it) but you will do it with more ease, less stress, less hustle and way more happiness along the way. Doesn’t that sound much better than pushing, rushing, manipulating, forcing, hustling, and stressing your way through life? YES!
What does success look like to you?
What do you desire?
Who do you want to be?
How do you want to feel?
What makes you happy?
What makes you feel joyful, abundant and free?
How can you achieve it all without stressing yourself out to the point of burnout?
Be happy. Be healthy. Be Contagiously Positive.
Laurie-ann Sheldrick, The Contagiously Positive Girl