The older I get, and the more I learn and grow within myself, the more I fully know and understand that my (your) self-worth is an inside job.
Your worth is strictly how you perceive yourself, not how other people perceive you.
Your worth isn’t defined by what you own, or how much money you have.
Your worth is valuing that you are absolutely amazing when you are being your true self – without the masks.
Your worth doesn’t come by trying to get other people to perceive you in a certain way, or to believe in you – your work is to like who you are and believe that you are worthy within yourself.
We work the work to strengthen our spiritual, mental, emotional, attitudinal, and physical muscles (even when we don’t want to) because we are worthy of all that we want to be, do and have in this beautiful life.
One of the best things I have heard from a woman who went through UNLEASH is that it showed her that her self-worth was not defined from the external world, or from what she had, or owned, or what other people thought, but what she believed and valued about herself.
What do you value most about yourself? Perhaps it is your kindness, compassion, resiliency, the way you love. What are the things that make you uniquely you that unleashes your belief in just how worthy you are?
HONOURING YOUR WORTH
I am not good enough was one of the beliefs I had to overcome, and still creeps in when I’m not paying attention to my triggers. It started when I was a young girl, which is where we develop most of our beliefs and our self-worth.
Side note: If you have children tell them how worthy they are all the time and not because they did something “good” and proved their worth, but just because they are worthy.
At one of my spiritual masterminds, we were talking about self-worth. Out of nowhere I found myself saying, “We are worthy because we were born…period.” The room got quiet as my girlfriend looked at me and said, “Yes! This is it!” You are worthy because you were born…period.
If I could go back and tell my younger self anything, it would be this. I would tell her that she never has to prove that she is worthy, she is just worthy. I would tell her that self-worth doesn’t come from money. Self-worth doesn’t come from a job title. Self-worth doesn’t come from relationships. Being worthy doesn’t come because you did anything, own anything, achieved anything, won anything; it is by being your most authentic self and believing that you are enough. Self-worth comes from self, YOU. It is an inside job. If you want to feel worthy, you have to be worthy within yourself. Whatever you have been conditioned to believe about yourself, trust me on this; you are worthy.
If you could go back and tell your younger self anything, especially between the ages of 0-14 when all your programming and beliefs were being developed, what would you say?
Write her (or him) a letter and tell that sweet innocent child all the things you wish you would have been told then. Give her (or him) a heads up on what you have learned and know today.
One thing that makes me feel unworthy is when I get caught up in the comparison trap. Social media is a great place for your limiting beliefs to be triggered, which is why it is so important to strengthen your self-worth. It’s so easy to get caught up in comparison and feeling small or not enough – unworthy.
Sometimes I feel really small, I feel unworthy, I feel like I’m so behind and will never get that thing I want because someone else has it. I get caught up in comparing my middle to someone else’s end, or I get scared thinking, “Who am I to do that?”
What I’ve learned to do from that place is not to take action from the feeling of smallness. Feeling small doesn’t mean you have to act small. Confidence (feeling worthy) doesn’t come naturally for everyone. Confidence for many, including myself, comes from standing tall, standing proud and letting our awesomeness shine bright even when we are not feeling it and even if we are afraid of it. Confidence comes from being who we are and doing what we want to do even when we feel like we are small enough to crawl under a rock and disappear.
If you are feeling like this today, I want you to know that you are not alone. And, I want you to know that you can hear that negative voice, but you don’t have to believe that negative voice.
Take a moment and think about any area in your life where you are experiencing a sense of unworthiness and it is preventing you from taking action. Now, take action, fear and feeling of smallness included, and let the action make you the massive worthy force that you are. This is how we UNLEASH. We strengthen our self-worth muscles, not by never experiencing a negative emotion, but by not allowing those emotions, or limiting beliefs to be our decision maker, or to determine our self-worth.
Laurie-ann Sheldrick, The Contagiously Positive Girl