Manifestation can feel like a tricky thing sometimes. Especially with so much new-age rhetoric, and superstitions that make it even more confusing, or make us doubt in our own ability and gifts.
This share is something that came to me a couple of weeks go, and I shared it in my weekly coaching email. It received some positive feedback, so I felt guided to share it here at the blog as well.
It was difficult to put this one into words, and I hope it makes senses, but I believe it will offer up some impactful insight to help you begin to explore your beliefs further.
I was out for a walk one day and decided to do a guided walking meditation. One of the questions asked in the meditation was, “what is one area of your life that you are being tested in right now, and what is the test trying to show you?”
I was instantly able to bring to my mind the test, as I was right in it, and was the reason I felt I needed to walk and meditate. My test right now is trusting in something I have been trying to manifest for 2 years.
At the beginning, my trust muscles were incredibly strong. But as time went on, and I still felt so far away from the goal, my trust muscles began to weaken.
Over the past 2 years I have either been in trust, taking action on the goal, trying to get closer with action, or not being in trust and doing practices that would help me strengthen my trust muscles.
This is what I realized during this meditation, and what I believe this test of trust has been teaching me.
My goal, the thing I want to manifest, has been a constant. I have never waivered on what I want. Imagine that this goal sits in place and is firm.
My trust muscles on the other hand have been elastic. When the trust is strong, I get closer to my goal because my confidence is high, the actions I take are aligned with my goal, and I have clarity on what needs to be done next.
Imagine even further that the elasticity of my trust moves me towards my goal and they almost meet up at the same place. Remember, my goal has never moved. But, I wake up one day and feel really discouraged that it hasn’t happened yet. I start to doubt myself, my confidence decreases, I’m not sure what actions to take, so my clarity weakens and so do my trust muscles. The elasticity now begins moving me away from my goal.
Because our beliefs inform our decisions. When I’m not in trust, I’m now making decisions based on my lack of trust, and my belief that it is taking too long so it probably won’t happen. I stop taking aligned action because I don’t believe it will happen for me, or what I’ve been doing has been working.
This has happened multiple times in the past two years. A little closer, a little further. Two steps forwards, two steps back. Lots of aligned action, and than no action. It becomes a battle where I end up being challenged by my beliefs.
What is the missing piece?
It is simply, but not always easy, connecting the manifestation or goal, with the belief of trust. Allowing the two to stay together, even when they haven’t fully connected yet. Meaning, I haven’t achieved my goal…yet.
This is new for me because I’m still in it, but I know this to be absolutely true. Focus on the manifestation/goal, and on keeping the trust muscles strong, or whatever belief is blocking your manifestation, at the same time.
In my case, this means taking aligned action against what my limiting belief is telling me to do. Which means, taking action even when I’m not feeling confident. Taking action even when it feels like it is so far away. Taking action even when my trust muscles are weakened.
Over time, the elastic that is stretching and moving me away from the manifestation will eventually not only meet up with the manifestation, but will fully connect and will both stay firmly in place.
“Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait and wait without anxiety.”
– A course in Miracles –
TRUST is not always easy.
This five-letter word can be difficult to put faith into. Especially when things don’t seem to be going our way. Whether it is trusting in ourselves, our manifestations, someone else, or just trusting in our life purpose, it can feel like a challenge at times.
Here are some steps to help you use this new wisdom I have gained.
Begin with clarity. What do you want? Whether it is a goal you want to achieve, or something you want to manifest, get clear and unapologetic about what you want.
When we know deep down, in the pit of our stomachs, what we truly want, we will move heaven and earth to get it. Choose one area of your life, and start writing all the things that you want.
Next is to take aligned action, always working towards the thing you want. What you want will stay firm, unless of course you naturally change your mind. These actions will be the most difficult because the only way to keep your trust muscles strong is to continue even when your limiting beliefs are informing your decisions. It will feel so challenging to work against these limiting beliefs, but this is the way you build up those muscles. Your beliefs inform your decisions, so you have to program your brain to work for you, not against you. Action is the best way to do this because it creates neuroplasticity, which is the brains ability to reorganize itself.
Continue to take these actions, even though you don’t have a crystal ball. You might fail, or it might not turn out to be what you expected, or even come when you wanted it to come. Either way, it gets you one step closer. When you sit idly by, waiting for life to happen, nothing happens.
If there is something that you really want, but you have been doubting yourself, don’t worry about the entire staircase, just focus on one step at a time.
When you feel the doubt creep in and your limiting beliefs are loud, use the answer to these questions to guide you:
- What actions would I take if I felt confident?
- What decisions would I make if I weren’t afraid?
- What would I do if I felt worthy?
- How would someone who trusted that I could be, do and have what I desire act? What decisions would she/he make? What actions would she/he take?
When we don’t let our limiting beliefs inform our decisions, our authentic selves get to lead the way for us. If your manifestation/goal feels like it is just within your reach, it is, and this practice will help you to connect with it.