“I know what I need to do, but it feels so hard today.”
It is so normal to feel this way. Especially when we are in resistance or fear and feel like giving up.
Taking action, especially inspired action, doesn’t always feel easy. Sometimes it flows and we have so much motivation. And sometimes we hit the wall of resistance.
We know what we could be doing to take care of our mental, emotional, physical, attitudinal and spiritual wellbeing. We understand that we need to take time to fill our own cup. Most of the time, we know exactly what works and what doesn’t. So why is it so difficult to take consistent inspired action? Why does it feel so hard sometimes?
Simply, it because we are human beings with very human emotions. These emotions are vast, constantly moving and so very normal. When we stop trying to not feel our feelings, we gain so much more freedom.
One being FEAR. We’ve talked about fear a lot over the years. It shows up whenever we least expect it, and it makes us face that wall of resistance.
If you are to think of all the things you are not doing that you know you really want to and need to do, is there an underlying fear there?
Afraid you won’t have time.
Afraid you will fail.
Afraid you will feel this way forever.
Afraid you will never find the answer.
Afraid you will make the wrong choice.
Afraid you won’t be able to commit.
Afraid you will actually succeed and your life will change.
Afraid your life will never change.
Afraid your loved ones won’t accept you.
Afraid of being judged or disliked.
It’s not always easy to choose what we know is best for us, even though we know we want it. These are not life and death fears, but they are very valid emotions. These fears can turn into anxiety and resistance gains so much momentum that we can’t seem to catch our breath long enough to pivot and take inspired action.
I don’t encourage my clients to do everything all at once, or in big leaps. It isn’t sustainable. What I recommend is baby steps. If you could just do one thing a day to strengthen your mental, emotional, spiritual, attitudinal, and physical muscles, it will give you a little more space to catch your breath and recognize that even though you have these fears, you are in fact safe.
You can feel fear and resistance, and take inspired action at the same time. One practice to help you with this is not allow fear to be your decision maker. Remind yourself that you are safe. Remind yourself that being afraid of failing doesn’t mean you will actually fail. Remind yourself that being afraid of being judged doesn’t actually mean you will be judged.
Your fears, even though they are very normal emotions, are not truths. This has always been a very helpful reminder for myself and my clients: you are the thinker of your thoughts, you are not your thoughts. You can choose what you make true.
The most important thing is that you get to choose what you do when fear creeps in.
Commitment to even the smallest choice can gain so much momentum. In this choosing is where you program your mind to work for you, instead of against you because you are creating neural pathways of safety. It is safe for me to choose. It is safe for me to take action. It is safe for me to ask for help. It is safe for me to receive support. It is safe for me to take care of my mental and emotional health. It is safe for me to feel all my feels. It is safe for me to be myself.
If you make one daily choice that helps you to strengthen your mental and emotional muscles, I promise you that even when you have fears, even when you hit the wall of resistance, you will know that there is nothing you cannot be, do and have if you truly want it. Even with fear tagging along, holding your hand. I’ve said this before: if you feel your fears, but don’t allow it to be your decision maker, it will eventually let go of your hand. And I believe you can take that straight to the bank.
Let’s turn that resistance into inspired action.
On a blank journal page, make two categories.
On one side of the paper, write down all the things you want to be doing, but feel fear and resistance towards right now. Claim the fear. What are you actually afraid of? By claiming it, it won’t claim you.
On the other side, if you didn’t fear this fear, or resistance (let’s pretend it isn’t there), write down the choices you would make.
Every day, or even every week, choose one thing from that list and take inspired action. Each choice, every action, will weaken the fear, and the wall of resistance will begin to come down.