Have you ever asked yourself, why do I feel like two different people? In one moment you feel like you could tackle the world, and in the next, you hear this voice telling you that you can’t. The truth is, we do have two inner voices. One voice speaks to you in loving, kind and supportive ways. That is your true self. The second voice is the one that crushes your dreams, tells you that you can’t do it, keeps you in the darkness and holds you down in fear. It also fills your mind with toxic thoughts and negativity. That, my dears, is called your Saboteur, definitely not your true self.
How To Recognize The Saboteur
The saboteur makes you feel unmotivated, keeps you in a fearful state, decreases or even eliminates all of your self-confidence, prevents you from love, keeps you in a constant negative state, removes all clarity and calmness. We all have inner voices that come with us through life and teach us our most valuable lessons and guide us towards our deepest desires. Just like it showed us in the movie, Inside Out, we have lots of inner voices. We have fear, anger, disgust, joy, kindness, empathy, and sadness. All of these are necessary and teach us different things at different times in our lives. However, the saboteur voice is different from these. The saboteur is the voice that tries to keep you stuck and prevents you from being happy, joyful, kind, and even empathetic. It is the one that keeps you in the darkness. My saboteur tries to tell me negative things all the time. It tries to keep me from my happiness, dreams and desires by using fear of failure. It tries to make me believe that I’m good enough, and it works hard to keep me on the path of darkness. But I don’t let it and here is why. Those tiny mad ideas that your saboteur tries to make you believe are not true. Anything that keeps you in the darkness is not true or real. Once you believe this, you will be able to follow the light of your loving voice. It is only when we become aware of our saboteur that we can squash it like a bug.
The saboteur is also the inner voice that turns negative thoughts into limiting beliefs and limiting beliefs into realities. Contagiously Positive Girl translation: most of the choices you make are driven by your beliefs. We get attached to the beliefs that we have of ourselves, whether it is negative or positive. That is why it is so difficult to change the way we think about ourselves. We get very comfortable with those beliefs. We know them inside and out and we know what to expect from them. Even though we know they are not good for us, the fear of change, the fear of the unknown, the fear of failure prevents us from doing the things that we want to do, or what we need to do to get back to our present moment awareness and back to our loving self.
Overcoming The Saboteur
To take control of your saboteur, instead of it controlling you, you must make space for new positive loving thoughts. To do this, you have to come to the awareness that the saboteur will also be with you. When it shows up, don’t ignore it, deal with it immediately. Stuffing it down only allows it to grow, which is not what you want. You want to accept that it is there, and ask yourself if this thought will keep you in the darkness or move you towards to the light. If there is no light, lesson or value in what it is saying, know that you can move on by believing that there is no truth or lesson in what it said.
Instead of listening to the saboteur that keeps you stuck in the darkness, start to trust the inner voices that teach you lessons and guide you towards love. Express gratitude for those loving inner voices that are always there guiding you towards love and light. When the saboteur starts to talk smack, making you think, “I am not good enough” stick up for yourself. Challenge the thought with your loving inner voices by reminding yourself that you are the absolute best version of yourself. You are enough.
Grab your journal or a pen and paper. Close your eyes. Take a few deeps breaths.
1. What is the inner voice of your saboteur saying?
2. What are your limiting beliefs and how are they holding you back?
3. What negative run of thoughts (tiny mad ideas) or beliefs or sabotaging words are you ready to release?
4. Your saboteur likes to make up excuses as to why you can’t do something. What are these excuses and how are you standing in your own way?
5. Now, what can you do to challenge the saboteur? What is your inner voice of your true self saying to you? This is the most important step. You must believe, trust and open yourself up to those loving thoughts are inside of you. These are the ones that squash the saboteur. Remember, You Are Enough. You Are Loved.
Sending you oodles of positivity, happiness and joy,
Laurie-ann Sheldrick, The Contagiously Positive Girl