“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.”
Some days I feel so connected to my goal that I believe without a doubt that nothing and no one is going to get in my way. I believe with full-hearted trust that there is nothing I cannot be, do or have and I take action from this place of confidence.
There are days where I want to give up on my goal. There are days when it feels too hard, too far away, too unattainable, or too unbelievable. And I yell at the universe and say, “why the heck did you put this desire in me only to make it so difficult?!”
I can listen to the voice that is telling me all the reasons why I should give up, and maybe it would be easier to give up and do something less challenging. If I listened to that voice and just gave up, I know that the desire in me wouldn’t go away. I would feel a pull and a need inside of me that something was missing, that something was being unfulfilled. That in turn would make me feel unfulfilled. To me, that feels so much worse than the idea of giving up on something that currently feels hard.
So, as long as the desire is in me, as long as I really want it, I choose not to give up.
We learn by doing, so even though I might feel like I’m failing at times, I am actually learning. It isn’t a matter of risking failure, it is accepting that we will initially feel like we are failing by the missteps we have to take in order to learn, change, grow and evolve.
Thomson Edison said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
You can’t know what the next step is until you actually begin to start walking. Figuring out what works is like trying on a new pair of shoes. Sometimes they don’t fit and sometimes they do. For the love of shoes, don’t give up, keep trying on new shoes. As a lover of all things shoes, I always knew they had a deeper metaphor for life.
We don’t have to have it “all” figured out. Part of the magic in life is trying new things to see what fits, what feels good, what connects.
When I started Contagiously Positive and began coaching, I had no idea what I was doing. I had a business degree, I had been in the construction industry for 10 years and I didn’t know the first thing about coaching or starting a business. I had tons of resistance, but my inner guide was telling me to go forward with this idea, this dream that I had. For the past 7 years, not only has the company been growing into where I want it to be, but I have also grown into the woman I want to be and most importantly, need to be to run my company and help women unleash the blocks that keep them from being happy. That has given me the confidence and commitment to serve to my highest ability.
Sometimes resistance comes up because we are not ready. We have a little more growth to do. We have a few more changes to make. We have to do more work on our mindset and shifting our perceptions. There are still parts of us that need healing. Or, we need to learn just a little bit more to have the breakthrough.
A few months ago, I set a goal to serve 1000 women with my new digital coaching course, Unleash Your Inner Contagiously Positive. I spent months creating the content, and putting together 9 weeks worth of coaching that I believed would help women make happiness their permanent default setting.
This didn’t happen over night. The first goal was to create the course. The second goal is now to serve thousands of women with the course. Do I feel overwhelmed by this sometimes? YES! But I have this deeply rooted desire in me and I refuse to give up.
I set a big goal for the month and I know that as long as I keep going, I’ll reach it. It might take more steps than I planned, and it might not even show up the way I imagined it would. All I really know (all we ever know) is that we will get there faster if we keeping taking action than if we gave up.
This new creation is 20 years worth of everything I wish had existed along my own journey to personal growth and inner healing. I couldn’t have created this 7 years ago, or even a year ago. The resistance was there, not because I was afraid, not because I was failing, but because I have been in the process of getting ready to be ready.
What if you only had 10 feet left to go? What would you do if you knew you were that close to reaching your goal?
That is what I want to leave you with today. What if everything you have been going through, is preparing you? I know it can feel frustrating to wait. You might be getting angry that it is taking so long, saying, “enough is enough, I’m tired of struggling, I want to achieve my goal.” Here is my advice.
- Don’t give up. When you get discouraged, get discouraged, but then keep working the work.
- Have faith that if the desire is in you, it is already yours for the taking, but you may need to do what Thomas Edison did and learn all the ways it doesn’t work to get to the way that does.
- Get help if you need it. Hire a life or business coach who can help you clean up the inner blocks, or who can help you structure your goal and map out your action plan.
- Most importantly, do the inner work. The inner work, the healing, the commitment to feeling the way you want to feel, and staying energetically aligned to what you want is the essential piece to creating and living a life that you love. We cannot do, feel, be, and have what we want, without committing to doing the inner work, what I call, unleashing our inner contagiously positive.
Laurie-ann Sheldrick, The Contagiously Positive Girl