Pre-Contagiously Positive Girl days, I was only focused on setting business and life goals that would get me more. More stuff, more clothes, more house, more car, more money, more material objects – more things, not more emotions. Each goal had a list of a lot more of just MORE. Things that held no emotional attachment to me, brought me zero joy and even things that I didn’t really want.
Since I began to work the work of unleashing my inner contagiously positive, I have come to realize that I don’t want to HAVE more, I want to BE more. I want more experiences, I want more excitement, I want my heart to expand with joy. And because of this, the goals and actions that I set and take, based on the vision I have for my life, has completely change. I put my time and energy into setting goals and filling up my cup with things that are infused with the emotional experience I want to have. Not only when I set it, but when I take action towards achieving it and once I achieve it. I don’t want to be happy when I achieve something, or get more, I want to be happy during the entire process. I also don’t want to waste energy on things that bring me zero joy, so my goals, my visions and the actions I take must include the 4 E’s.
Explosion means that it must fill my heart and soul so much that it feels like I will explode with love and gratitude.
Expansion means that it must expand my life. Will it make me grow? Will it fill me with gratitude? Will it enhance my life? If the answer to those questions is no, why the heck do I even want it? I don’t have time to waste on lifeless goals. Neither do you.
Excitement means letting my inner child play, and bringing me joy. Do you ever feel like somewhere along the way you lost your excitement to life and the things around you? I want to bring out my inner child. She so deserves to play. I want to feel excited, even with, especially with, the tiny little moments in life. Bigger isn’t always better and more isn’t always what we need. Your goal doesn’t need to be big, it needs to excite you.
Experiences mean doing things with my friends, family, travelling, doing fun things just for the fun of it, and not getting bogged down by the daily grind. It means filling up my memory jar.
Listen, I’m not saying that I don’t want a beautiful home, or nice clothes or a pretty car. I enjoy all of those things. I’m grateful for those things. But that is the key. Those things have the 4 E’s infused into them. I can feel the heart expanding gratitude for it. I don’t need more, or bigger, or better to make me happy, I’m already happy. Anything else is just a bonus.
I used to have a bigger house than the one I’m living in now. Did the house make me happy? No. The physical home we lived in didn’t make me happy, it was what we did in that home. We will filled it with memories by opening it up to our friends and family. We connected with people and grew relationships and had the most heart expanding experiences that filled my soul. We could have lived in that same home and been miserable had we not filled it with experiences that made us excited, that expanded our life, and exploded our hearts. Did I love the house? Yes! But I didn’t need that house to make me happy. The house was just a bonus. And, even though I don’t live in that house anymore, I love this house just as much because I’m filling it up with my number #1 goal, my #1 desire, my #1 vision, which is to make sure that whatever I do, it has the 4 E’s.
The next time you set a new goal, create a vision, want to buy something, or want to go somewhere, like maybe a trip, ask yourself these questions?
Will it expand my life?
Will achieving this, doing this, going there, or being with this person give me more heart loving explosions?
Will it excite me? Does it excite me?
Will it fill my mental memory jar with more soul fulfilling experiences?
Do I really, really, really, like jump out of bed want this?
If the answer is no to all of those questions, maybe it is time to re-evauate where you are, where you want to go and what you truly want. Maybe it is time to go deeper within as to why you want it and ask yourself, what do I need to experience the 4 E’s? You will be surprised that your answer isn’t usually more stuff (remember, those are just bonuses) it is more experiences and more positive emotion behind the stuff and behind the experiences.
Laurie-ann Sheldrick, The Contagiously Positive Girl
Be happy. Be heathy. Be contagiously positive.