Last night at the 2014 Silverspoon Dinner, Jann Arden was the guest speaker. Every word she spoke resonated with me. Not just in my personal life, but for all the reasons why I created Contagiously Positive. So often, we think we are the only people on earth who have problems, struggles, fears and obstacles that we have to overcome. She reminded me that no matter where we are in our lives, we are human and shit happens, but that doesn’t mean we can’t get everything we desire in life. We must use the problems, struggles, fears and obstacles as tools. Take the lessons from the pain and use them towards something amazing. What I loved most about hearing her speak was that she was so real. She was funny, honest, vulnerable, open, and showed up with a full heart. I was hooked from her very first sentence. Just when I thought it couldn’t get any better, she started to sing. No band, no music, just her beautiful voice. GOOSEBUMPS! I am so grateful for the lessons she taught me last night and I know that I’m not alone. There were over a 1000 other women in the room entranced by her voice and her words. Thank you Jann Arden for being authentically and beautifully you.
Top 5 Jann Arden Lessons
1. Be struck by passion. Find something that fills up your heart with joy and electricity. It doesn’t matter what it is, just do that one thing that electrifies your soul.
2. Your parents are people too. We grow up thinking that our parents are just there for our needs and we don’t realize that they have problems too. Parents are not given a manual to take home with them on how to raise a child. Know that they are doing the best they can and try to understand that they to have pain.
3. If you are failing, it means you are trying. Not everything you do is going to turn into magic and be successful. Yes, you could stay at home in comfort and protect yourself from failing and getting hurt, but wouldn’t it be more fun to go out and live life, failures and all? I get scared all the time, but instead of letting fear guide me, I use it push myself forward and do it anyway. I’ve had lots of failures, bumps, and bruises, but I will never say, “I wish I would have done that.” I’ve fallen down a lot, but I’ve always gotten back up, looked for the lesson and moved on.
4. Be mindful, thoughtful and respectful of the most important person you will be with everyday, YOU. Love yourself, be authentic, and try not to worry about what other people think. You are amazing, you are unique and you are fabulous – just as you are.
5. Laugh. Laughter truly is the best medicine. It is important to laugh with people, to laugh by yourself, and to be able to laugh at yourself. I often find myself in situations where I’m the butt of the joke. I’ve either said or done something ridiculous and laughter ensues. Instead of being embarrassed, I laugh along side them and relish in the thought that I brought someone laughter today, including myself.
Now, go out there and start enjoying life, failures and all!
Laurie-ann Sheldrick, The Contagiously Positive Girl