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How To Make Life Happen For You, Instead of To You

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I talk about checking in with your inner guide so much because I want you to be, do and have all that you desire. When we take pause to notice what we need, and allow ourselves to take inspired action on giving it to ourselves, we stop waiting for life to happen to us and make it happen for us.

We spend so much time getting prepared for things. We plan, we schedule, we arrange, make lists – all in an attempt to make the project, event, party, trip, experience, or task successful. Most of you are probably great external world planners and organizers and don’t think twice about the time it takes. You just know it needs to get done, so you do it, no questions asked. We spend a lot of time making things successful on someone else’s behalf.

Yet when it comes to your inner world, are you making the same arrangements, plans, schedules and lists? Are you prepared for the mental, emotional, spiritual, attitudinal, and physical aspects it takes to make your life run smoothly? 

If your mental wellbeing were a project you had to “work on” is the project currently successful? Are you taking the time (no questions asked) to work on your mental health? 

If your emotional wellbeing were an event you were planning, do you have backups ready just in case things don’t go as smoothly as you planned? You know, for when life happens, which it will and does. 

If your spiritual wellbeing were a trip you were taking, do you have everything you need to make the trip enjoyable? 

Our inner world, how we feel, what we think, our attitude, reactions, behaviors, actions, all impact what we experience externally. If you are not mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually strong, the things that come at you constantly from the external world will feel so incredibly overwhelming. 

When you are emotionally, physically and mentally exhausted, EVERYTHING feels hard. Even just having a simple conversation feels like climbing a mountain. Decisions become difficult to make, our attitude takes up consistent residence in negative-ville, we are short tempered, tired, and perhaps feel like we are riding an emotional rollercoaster. 

This is why I every single week I give you tools and journal prompts to practice. I do this so that you are strong, remember who you are and stop waiting for life to happen to you, and instead, make it happen for you. I don’t want you to do what I do. I want you to do what you want to do. My wish for each and every single one of you is that you are in the drivers seat of your life, making it an epic and awesome journey. 

You are always going to experience stressors and sometimes painful times. This is part of being human. We hurt when we lose someone. We get stressed out when we take on too much. We feel angry when someone is mistreating us, or someone who love. All normal. And, not but, we can experience all of that and so much joy. But if your inner world is not getting any attention, the joy is difficult to see, and feel.

The 5 Core Questions To Connect With Inner Guide
That is why I recommend you answer these 5 core questions. You know the questions because I share them every single week. We don’t need to be constantly reinventing the wheel. What we need is to connect to our core. What we need is to remember who we are. What we need is to go back to the basics. 

What do I need emotionally? 

What do I need mentally? 

What do I need spiritually? 

What do I need physically? 

What I do need attitudinally? This is for any area where you feel you need an attitude shift, or change in perspective. 

Close your eyes and put your hand on your heart in between each question. This is a great way to take pause and ground yourself for a moment. Grab a journal, or piece of paper and just write down the first thing that comes to your mind. Don’t question it, don’t try to explain it, just write down the first thought. That first thought is your inner guide before your mind tells you all the reasons why you couldn’t, shouldn’t or don’t have time to do that thing. That first thought is you remembering who you are and what you need. YOU ALREADY KNOW! It just gets blocked. 

Now that you have your list, this is your to-do list, your plan and your tasks for the week to take care of your inner world. Your inner guide (your true authentic self) has just made the decision for you on what actions, behaviors, attitude, and decisions you need for the week. If you can simply just begin to trust in this process, trust in yourself, you stop waiting for life to happen to you, and instead, make it happen for you – while enjoying yourself along the way. 

Journal Prompts
You may experience resistance to taking action on what you write from the questions above. This is normal. What I suggest, it each day in your journal, connect with yourself. 

How am I getting in my own way? It might be a limiting belief, or it could just be habit. 

What do I need to do today to manifest the life that I desire? 

If you find yourself getting in your own way, simply say, “I acknowledge that I am getting in my own way by [say how] and I release this.” And than just do one thing to create the habit of doing things for yourself. Overtime it gets easier and easier because you are programming your brains default settings, making it habitual. Most of the things we do and don’t do are based on the habits we created, so doing the opposite consistently creates new neural pathways in the brain and BAM! new habits are formed. Not so easy peasy at first, but it will get easier, I promise. 

My online workshop UNLEASH Your Limiting Beliefs can really help you with this. It guides you to do a deep dive into your subconscious brain so you can program your brain to work for you, instead of against you. 

All Love,


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