If you haven’t set your goals yet, or you have, but you have been struggling to really connect with you them, this exercise will help you to gain clarity.
I sat down with my journal on January 1st and started to reflect on 2020. Guiding myself with questions always helps me to take it deeper and gain more clarity. After the rollercoaster year that we all experienced, I wanted to ease my way into the new year and explore what I was going to take with me into the new year and what I was going to leave behind as I started anew.
The challenges we faced in 2020 are behind us, but there are some that we are still working on overcoming, so I believe that we really need to give ourselves so much grace. So if you haven’t set your goals yet, don’t be so hard on yourself.
As 2021 inched closer, I began to to see the typical new year, new you posts. I also saw all the shares about finally leaving 2020 behind and now we can be, do and have what we desire.
Don’t get me wrong, these shares are wonderful and can be so motivating. However, the calendar shifting dates isn’t what is going to change our experiences. The outside world doesn’t have to change in order for us to change. It’s the shifts we make – in our actions, decisions, attitude, behaviour, reactions, responses, thoughts and beliefs that create the most impact.
That is incredibly powerful because none of that requires a calendar change, a new day, a new month, or even a new year. It’s a cyclical process that begins and ends when you want it to begin and end. Meaning, you don’t have to wait for a new week, month or year, you can begin (or end) at any moment…including this moment.
So you see, you don’t have to get it ALL done because it’s never truly done. If you didn’t get it done in 2020, or last week, or last month, or even yesterday, simply continue today, next week, next month or next year.
As we ease into the new year, hopefully giving ourselves, and each other, so much grace, compassion and love, and you haven’t set any goals or resolutions, in this share are my reflection questions. I wanted to take this exercises deeper for you, so I also recorded a podcast that explores each questions, how it can help you set your goals, and I share some of my answers from my own journal.
You can listen here on iTunes (episode 116)
You can listen here on Spotify (episode 116)
What was your greatest challenge that you overcame in 2020?
What was your greatest accomplishment in 2020?
What was a new revelation that you had in 2020?
What was your most profound lesson in 2020?
What were things you learned how do, or were surprised you enjoyed in 2020?
What is something that made you proud of yourself?
What are you most grateful for that the experience of 2020 gave you?
As you reflect on the year that has passed, I also encourage you to explore any goals that you have already set, or thinking about setting, and ask yourself this:
Are your goals aligned with your terms of success?
Are you racing in a race you even want to be in?
Are they connected to your truest most authentic aspects of self?
Are they being led and decided by fears or limiting beliefs?
Are you leaving yourself time and space to take care of your mental, emotional and physical health?
Are they heart centered?
My goal setting wish for all of us is not setting a goal because we have this belief that we SHOULD want it, or SHOULD do it. But instead, set goals that INSPIRE us, that we CRAVE, that EXPAND us, and that we know are ours to reach out our hands and grab because we TRUST that it is meant to be ours. It is much easier to achieve your goals when they are fully aligned with your truest wants, needs, and desires.