Fear is the #1 barrier that prevents us from living a life of purpose, intention and joy. We fear changing our careers, going back to school, changing our old ways, the unknown, the unfamiliar, becoming sick, getting hurt, losing a loved one, being rejected, becoming successful, being vulnerable, or not being able to “handle” it.
As I continue to edit my new book, Out of The Darkness, Into The Light, the chapter on fear has been the most difficult to write. What I want to tell you is to not let fear hold you back. Period. But fear is so deeply ingrained into our subconscious minds that the chapter requires more than one line. While I continue to finesse this chapter for you, I want to share with you a little sneak peak into what I think about fear.
FEARS ARE NOT TRUTHS
Fear is just a fearful, false thought. It is not your reality, as it has not even happened yet. Just because you think it, doesn’t make it true. Fear and worry is like praying for chaos. I know this because I have lived it, felt it and marinated in my fears. It creates chaos in our lives because 99% of the things we worry about never happen. That means that we are letting fear make 99% of our life choices, staying stuck in the trap of worry, turning our hearts away from the things that truly light us up and bring us joy, peace and love.
“Everything you want is on the other side of fear.”
I still get scared of making the wrong choice, or failing, but instead of letting fear guide me, I now use it to push myself forward. When I am aware that I am about to make a decision that is based on fearful, false thoughts, I know that it is my saboteur voice, not my true self, my voice of love. The thing that now scares me the most is regret. I now believe that I can only fail if I refuse to even.
“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.”
When you feel yourself detouring into fear, think about what you are about to give up if you allow fear to run the show. Does it feel scarier to do it or not do it? Will you regret letting fear make the decision for you? Will you get down the road 2 years from now with a sense of longing, saying “I should’ve done that, I could’ve done that? I wish I had done that?” Take a moment and become aware of where you are allowing fear to be your decision maker. How is fear holding you back from your dreams, desires and wishes?
Once you become aware, start to bust through the fear barrier with love and action. By love, I mean loving yourself enough to pile drive right through it by taking action and doing it anyway. You might make mistakes, you might get hurt, and you may even be rejected. But the biggest mistake you can make is to not even try because you are afraid. You took the first courageous step already by recognizing where you are allowing fear to keep you stuck. Once you take the second step of love and action, you will find yourself saying, “what the heck was I ever afraid of?”
Piece by piece, day by day, action by action, step by step, you will shatter the fear barrier and step right into the light. You can be afraid at home, in your fear bubble, or you can be afraid, do it anyway, and be out there living a fabulous life. What will you choose?
“You never fail until you stop trying.”
Sending you oodles of positivity, happiness and joy,
Laurie-ann Sheldrick, The Contagiously Positive Girl