Change is inevitable. We can fight against it. We can resist it. We can ignore it. But it’s still there and it’s still going to happen.
Resist it, and constantly fight against the current, or we can embrace it knowing that it’s the most natural thing that happens as we age, grow, learn and evolve, as the seasons of our lives change, and as our wants, desires and needs change.
Imagine if things didn’t changed. Imagine where we would be; where you would be if everything stayed exactly the same and we never had the opportunity for newness and advancement.
Change is as natural as gravity so we can resist it and fight vehemently to stay where we are, to keep things just as they are, slowly driving ourselves mad, or we can embrace it fully and let it expand our lives, our hearts and use it to up our happiness game to new levels.
As you can see from the video above, I talk about embracing change a lot. Unleash your inner contagiously positive by watching the video above and then dive even deeper with these five contagiously positive tips to embrace change and stop any mad hatter madness you might be feeling in any area of your life.
ASK YOURSELF, IS THIS LIFE OR DEATH?
If change is difficult for you, ask yourself this question when it comes up (and it will): is this change life or death? If it’s not, which it usually isn’t, you will be just fine.
Remember, you can be afraid and excited at the same time. And, you can be afraid and still embrace change. Fear is just another emotion on a large scale of emotions. It has no control over you unless you give it control.
THEN ASK, WHO DO I NEED TO BECOME?
Before changing something in the outer world, is there anything that you need/want to change in your inner world?
This is always where I begin before I take on a big change. If I have a health goal, I need to believe in myself and act like a healthy person would act. If I have a money goal, I need to have faith in working the work and act like a person with financial abundance would act. If I want to enhance my relationships, I need to be loving, kind, compassionate, and non-judgemental.
What changes do you want to make in your life and who do you need to become internally to fully embrace them and stay inspired/motivated to work the work of making it happen?
Change begins from within: Our attitude, beliefs, thoughts and feelings. Work your way from in to out and I promise things will begin to fall into place.
WHAT WORKED YESTERDAY MAY NOT WORK TODAY
Embrace that what worked yesterday may not work today or tomorrow and that is okay. In fact, that is life.
We, and this includes me because I’m on this path with you, hold so tightly to the way things were and are because we want so badly for things to be comfortable. But changing the way we do things when it isn’t working doesn’t have to be uncomfortable when we understand that life is constantly changing around us and in us. When people say, “you’ve changed.” I reply, “thank god!”
I used to fight so hard to keep things as they were and resisted change. It wasn’t until my coach really made me see that my current actions, beliefs and mindset weren’t working and I needed to switch things up.
Start by being open to the possibility of doing things differently. Be open to fully stepping into the person your soul truly wants to evolve to. Be open to new positive beliefs, new ways of eating that give you energy, a new way of reacting to your coworkers who drive you nuts, a new relationship, etc. Just be open.
JUST TAKE ANY ACTION
Make any decision, just any decision, big or small.
You don’t have to have it all figured out, or know 100% that it’s the right decision. There is no crystal ball, so we need to trust and have faith that we (you) know what’s right for us in the moment (and you do).
Here is some inspiration from Abraham Hicks Publications to really take this further: “Make more decisions in every day. Because a decision is a summoning of life. That’s why a little chaos is good for you, because often you don’t make a decision until you get yourself in a jam. And then, in the middle of the jam, you make a decision, but that decision summons Life Force. Have you ever been a place where you couldn’t quite make up your mind and you just felt sort of limp? “Oh, I don’t know. I don’t know. I don’t know.” And then you decided, and you felt alive again. We want you to know that you’ll never get it done. So don’t approach this from, “I gotta get on this” because you’re not ever going to get it done, anyway. And the other thing we want you to know is, you cannot get it wrong. So, make a decision. Let it flow.”
KNOW WHAT MAKES YOU TICK
For this one, I turned to change expert, Jolene Watson of Clarity Coaching and Development. Jolene took the the time to write us about how important it is to know how we handle change based on our unique personality. Read below to see if any of the examples below resonate with you. Knowing this can take away the stress when change comes, and it will come, and help us deal with it with more ease and confidence. It was also very good for me to see how other people might not handle change the same way I do, with as much excitement, so I need to be sensitive to that.
I recently had the honor of attending a certification course at Psychometrics Canada Ltd. on change management; what I learned was fascinating and poignant when it came to how I viewed other people’s reactions. All too often, we assume others will feel the same way about upcoming change; this is rarely the case as personality types have a major impact on our seemingly unique reactions.
Some people get super excited by changing while others find it draining and exhausting; this can be confusing for the person trying to navigate through it or the one trying to introduce it to others. Introverts often want to reflect on the change and think about it before taking action (often alone). Extroverts on the other hand, want to jump straight into the implementation stage and talk it out immediately with those around them. Have you ever been to a staff or team meeting where there seemed to be a huge disconnect? This is often part of the problem…
Those of us who are ‘big picture’ thinkers (Laurie-ann and myself) otherwise known as intuitive, or as I ever so kindly put it ‘Squirrel’ in Myers-Briggs terminology want to know the long term goal and how that will impact them at a later date. The opposite preference, sensing, need to know the details and step by step sequence of the change before getting on board with it. As you can imagine, this can cause conflict in personal and professional relationships.
The third area (how we make a decision) thinking or feeling, can also impact how one views change. Thinkers tend to focus on the immediate tasks and strategy while feelers focus on the needs of the people involved in the change.
Lastly, our lifestyle preference has a huge impact on how we are going to deal with the change at hand. Those who are of the judging preference love to make a plan and know the timelines; this will alleviate a lot of stress if they know what is happening and when. Those who are more spontaneous and flexible (the perceivers) want to have fun through the process and want everyone to allow for flexibility and adaptability.
As you can see from the brief example above, change management MUST be approached quite differently when you are working with different personality types. When you are going through personal change knowing what you need is very important! If we know ahead of time our triggers and how to mitigate through change with the least amount of stress, life can be much easier and most importantly much more of an adventure!
“The only thing guaranteed in life is change”
We can fight against it, or we can unleash our inner contagiously positive and embrace it.