I often wonder what would have happen if I let fear make my decisions.
I wouldn’t have moved to Ottawa and started on my own personal journey to becoming happy and healthy.
I wouldn’t have taken the chance on Jason and be in this amazing marriage.
I wouldn’t have taken chances with my career, ultimately leading me here.
I wouldn’t have started my own business.
I wouldn’t have moved to Saskatoon and be on this amazing adventure.
I wouldn’t be writing this blog.
I wouldn’t have gone back to school…twice.
All of those things were scary, but I’m so glad I did them. If I had let fear make my decisions, I would be living someone else’s life, not mine. I would be filled with regret and what ifs, which is the scariest thing of all.
When fear creeps in, this is what I do.
I’m very strategic when it comes to doing something scary or uncomfortable. I visualize the moment being successful. If I have to have a difficult conversation with someone, I visualize how I want the conversation to go. I see it all in my head, just as I want it. It may not go that way, but it immediately puts my mind at ease. I can see and feel the way I want to feel.
I have to do a lot of public speaking, which I love, but fear still creeps in. There are moments where I think, “what am I doing? I can’t do this. Maybe I should cancel.” I had this feeling just the other day. I had to do a 2 hour lecture and was freaking myself out. “Am I prepared? What if they hate it? What if it doesn’t help or inspire anyone? What if I say the wrong thing? What if the equipment fails?” Instead of letting myself spiral into the bottomless vortex of negative thoughts, I sat down, took some deep breaths and visualized the day. I visualized myself in front of the room. I saw the people, I thought about how I wanted to feel, how I wanted them to feel, what I wanted to say, and the impact I wanted to have on the people in the room. I also remembered how much I love teaching people and how much I loved the content I was going to be talking about. I kept focusing on all those positive things. When my husband asked me the next morning if I was nervous, I could honestly say that I wasn’t.
Visualizing what you want, in a positive way, before it even happens, is like looking fear in face and saying, “thanks for the warning, but I’m going to try it anyway.” The next time you feel fear creeping in, sit down and visualize the experience you want to have. Even if it doesn’t happen just as you visualized it, your body and your mind will be at ease and you will have the confidence to move forward. Even if it doesn’t work out, I believe that nothing happens by accident. There is no such thing as failure, especially when you are trying. I look at them as lessons.
What have you been putting off because you are scared? Today, I want you to look fear in the face and say, “thanks, but no thanks. I’ve got this covered.”
If fear is getting in the way of you becoming healthy and happy, fear no more. Your journey to becoming the happiest and healthiest person you know starts now!
Sending you oodles of positivity, happiness & joy,
Laurie-ann Sheldrick, The Contagiously Positive Girl