I used to be a “when I have” I’ll be happy girl.
I’ll be happy when I have this amount of money
I’ll be happy when I have that job title
I’ll be happy when I have those material items
I’ll be happy when my relationships reach this level
I’ll be happy when my body looks like this
Through all of the “when I have-ing” I wasn’t happy. I was missing all of the happy moments that were right in front of me, staring me in the face, screaming to be noticed. I was missing them because I was stuck in future-tripping. Waiting to be happy tomorrow, next week, next month or next year.
When I became aware of this block, I realized that I could still have wants, needs, desires and goals, that haven’t yet been achieved, and still be happy. I can be happy by creating beautiful happy moments and be grateful for what I have TODAY. I can be happy and grateful today because tomorrow is not guaranteed. I can be happy by putting an end to the stress of future-tripping and LIVE instead of waiting. Waiting for a “when I have” moment is futile because if I don’t live and love what I have today, eventually I will run out of tomorrows, next weeks, next months and next years to be happy. So I choose to be happy today. I choose to be happy today because life is what happens without me when I get stuck in a mentality of I will only be happy “when I have…”
I choose to be happy without a specific job title. Those are just words on a business card.
I choose to be happy without having a specific outcome, instead trusting that the universes plan is so much better than mine.
I choose to be happy without a specific house. I prefer a HOME filled with happy memories.
Of course I still work hard in my business and have desires, and goals that I will continue to work for. But if I am happy now, once I achieve those things, or something better, I will have full 100% gratitude for them. I am open to receiving them fully and completely with love.
Life doesn’t stop and wait for us. If we wake up today and decide that we are only going to be happy if everything goes as we plan, life is going to still carry on without us. This is how we miss so many beautiful moments. We decide that happiness has to look and be a certain way. When you clear those blocks to loves presence, darkness turns into the most light and you are finally able to see what has been right in front of you all along.
Positivity Powerful Q&A:
What are your when I have’s?
How are they holding you back from being happy today?
What can you do today to let go of one when I have blocks and choose happiness and gratitude for what you have now?
Are you ready to choose happiness?
Laurie-ann Sheldrick, The Contagiously Positive Girl
More about choosing happiness in this blog: Are You Ready To Choose Happiness?