How can you lose weight if you don’t believe you can lose it?
How can you have the relationships you want if you don’t believe you deserve them, or don’t think you are good enough?
How can you achieve your goals, in any area of your life, if you don’t think you are capable?
We have 60,000 thoughts a day. I didn’t just make that up, it is a true fact. Most of those 60,000 thoughts are repeated and a lot of times the ones most repeated are negative. Before I became Contagiously Positive, the one thought that I was repeating over and over again was, “I am not good enough.” I wasn’t good enough to be healthy. I wasn’t good enough to get the career I wanted? I wasn’t good enough to have the relationships I wanted. That thought consumed me. Without a doubt, changing that thought has changed my life.
I needed to release my limiting beliefs before I could move forward. Healing can’t be accomplished in the past, only in the present. When I started my own personal development journey, I realized how stuck in the past I was. How could I be successful in any area of my life if I was constantly telling myself that I wasn’t good enough? The answer, I couldn’t. Changing that thought changed my life.
With 60,000 thoughts running through our minds every day, it’s no wonder we feel out of control. However, I’ve come to learn that we have control over all the thoughts that come into our mind. We just have to open ourselves up to the awareness of our thoughts, so we can choose new ones. I use to feel like I was a prisoner of my thoughts. Not only did I not believe I was good enough, but I was a ‘should’ person. I should have done that, I shouldn’t have done that, and I shouldn’t have said that, I should have said that. UGH! All of that “shoulding” was making me feel like I wasn’t good enough. These heavy negative thought shackles were weighing me down and keeping me stuck.
How do we stop and change our negative thought patterns? Let me offer you some helpful daily rituals that helped me and continue to help me today. Since becoming Contagiously Positive, I am now aware of when I’m bringing back the shackles and I can reach into my toolbox to bring myself back. Daily rituals are like little nudges, nudging me towards positive thought patterns. The two that were most successful for me were affirmations and reflections.
When I was first working towards changing my thoughts, it was a total brain overhaul. I had to be very strategic and work on changing all day. In the beginning, the thoughts just kept coming, so this might sound crazy to do, but I was a negative though addict, and this was key to my changing. What I did was, I set the alarm on my phone to go off every hour, from 9:00 am to 4:00 pm (my personal work hours), and I had a positive affirmation in my phone. When the alarm went off, I took 10 to 15 seconds to take some deep breaths, stretch and read my affirmations. Just this little reminder got me out of whatever negative thought pattern I may have been in. If I wasn’t having negative thoughts I recognized the positive change and it made me feel so proud that working the work was bringing out the positivity in me.
The affirmations you choose should be the positive opposite. For me, “I’m not good enough” was replaced with “I am enough, just as I am.”
Below are some other examples of affirmations that I have used.
“I am committed and willing to change and to act upon it.”
“Today, I’m pushing the RESET button and starting again.”
“Today, I am removing all self-labels.”
“Today, I am going to honor the gifts that God has given me.”
“I choose to be perfect in this moment, even if I wasn’t perfect moments ago.”
So many of my clients cringe when I give them this tool because they hate to write. However, after a few weeks, they start to notice the positive impact and even their negative attitude towards writing becomes more positive. All I ever ask of anyone is to at least try. It may not be the tool for you, but it might just be the one that transforms your life.
Start by getting a journal, or notebook. What you are going to do is write down all of your negative thoughts throughout the day. You may start to notice a pattern. Maybe you are like I was and have one limiting belief. These negative thoughts are holding you back and it is important to recognize them, so you can release them and replace them with a positive thought.
Beside every negative thought, you are going to release it and replace it with something positive.
“I am not good enough.”
“I release this negative belief of not being good enough. I am perfect just the way I am.”
“I no longer accepting feeling like I’m not good enough. I am good enough.”
Use whatever wording resonates with you.
All of this sounds like a lot of work, but if you work the work, you will become the happiest and healthiest person you know. We will never stop thinking, so it is important to always be aware of what thoughts are holding us back. Those limiting beliefs love to creep back in when we least expect them. Overtime, when those thoughts come to you, all you will have to do is just stop, say no to allowing them to take over and replace them with something positive. Throughout the day, I want you to take a moment and reflect on what you are thinking. Remember this acronym: W – A – I – T (what am I thinking?)
With practice and time, you will start to recognize when your negatives thoughts are becoming limiting.
Today is your day to become the most positive person you know!
Laurie-ann Sheldrick, The Contagiously Positive Girl