Being Contagiously Positive isn’t about being perfect, just the opposite actually. It’s about being happy without being perfect. In the words of Pharrell Williams, “Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth. Clap along if you know what happiness is to you.”
A Lesson On Being Happy, Rather Than Perfect
Before I got married, I wanted to do something special for my husband, so my friend Melissa and I decided to take a pole dancing class. It would get us in shape and I would learn a sexy routine to surprise my new husband with. During the first class it became very obvious that I had no rhythm. I could have been embarrassed, frustrated and self-conscious, but I wasn’t. Why? Because it was hilarious! The laughter that came out of that class was worth any moves I could have learned. I’m uncoordinated and quirky, but I loved it anyway and so did my husband. He loved it because I made him laugh. He loved it because I was laughing. He loved it because I was being myself. He loved it because he loves me. I’ve told this story to many men and they all said that it wouldn’t matter to them if their girlfriends or wives have a perfect body, or perfect moves. All they want is for them to be happy, love themselves and have fun.
Stop It! Stop criticizing your body, your moves, your hair, your eyes, your freckles, your ass, your thighs, your calves, your toes, your hands, your ears, and everything else that you think you need to change to become happy and desirable. You are already desirable! Being authentic is desirable. Being authentic will bring you happiness, not perfection.
Choose Happy. I’ve had so many moments where I would rather make someone laugh than try to be perfect. I talk in song, I reenact musicals for my friends, I belt out Disney songs, and I dance even though I don’t have much rhythm. I’m almost 37 years young and I could care less about acting my age. What does that even mean? Does getting older mean we stop laughing, stop having fun and stop enjoying the little things? No! Making time for playfulness is great for your mind, body & soul…at every age. I do all of these things because being happy is more important than being perfect, or being perceived that way. It takes way too much soul-sucking energy to try to be a Superwoman type who thinks they need to be good at everything. The point is, don’t take yourself so seriously. Who cares what other people think. Wouldn’t you rather enjoy life than try to constantly be perceived as perfect? Please say yes. Please, please say yes. You deserve to be happy. I want you to be happy.
The Practice. What is something you’ve always wanted to do, like a pole dancing class, but thought you would look silly doing it? I dare you to do it. I double dog dare you! Remember my lesson. Don’t worry about doing it perfectly, worry about being happy doing it. Nothing else matters!