When did we forget the importance and beauty of our laugh, smile or just a sweet little giggle? It happens though, right? We wake up thinking that life is too tough, “adulting” should be a serious task and that a frown would be our accessory for the day. Laughter truly is the best medicine. It releases happy endorphins that help lower stress hormones, reduces depression and anxiety, makes you more desirable, boosts your creative mind and motivates you to achieve your goals and desires. Even with all of these amazing benefits, is it is the thing we so often forget to do.
In 2002 or 2003, it was brought to my attention that I had lost my laughter mojo. A boy, that I had just met, said to a friend, “she never smiles, is she the devil or something?” I was so young and impressionable at that time that is struck me right in the heart. It hit me hard. Not like a brick, but a full on grand piano falling 100 feet from the air. In that moment I realized how much of my spark I had actually lost. And how far I had gone down the abyss of unhappiness. I thought I was hiding it pretty well, but obviously not. I started faking the laughter and smiles just to get the attention of my friends and to make them think that everything was okay. How often do you that, pretend to be happy to avoid the questions and avoid going within? How often do you fake it so you don’t have to do the work of trying to repair the root of your unhappiness? I did that for years, until I got sick of faking it. I wanted to have real belly laughs on a daily basis. I wanted to smile and mean it. I wanted those sweet little giggles when seeing something cute. I no longer wanted to be jaded by the idea of the adult world or the negativity that was surrounding me at work, in the media or just daily life. I wanted authenticity and realness.
“Stop searching without, for what you must find within.”
To spark my laughter mojo, I had to work the work and clear away the blocks that were causing my frown lines to get longer and deeper. I did the unthinkable, the thing I was avoiding for years…I went within. I stopped searching for happiness in the outer world (out there) and found it where it had been since the day I was born, inside my heart, inside my soul (inside of me). That is where it is and has always been for you as well. All the peace, happiness and fulfillment you seek lies within you. Now, I smile, laugh and giggle like no ones business. I smile, laugh and giggle because even though life is imperfect, it is so freaking awesome. I still have the lines beside my eyes, but now they are laugh lines. Each line is a lesson, a road that I’ve traveled and a part of my story.
To the boy who made that comment, I thank you. I thank you for letting me see that I had lost my laughter mojo. For opening my eyes to the awareness that I wanted, needed and desired a change. Thank you for reminding me to get my spark back. When we become aware of things that we have lost and want back, we are able to work towards overcoming our limiting beliefs, past pains and life blocks and let go of the things that are no longer serving us.
To you, my dear, let me be the one who opens your eyes if you have lost your spark. Let me guide you to the knowingness that you can get it back. Today, find something to laugh about, even if you have to go searching for it online in a funny video. Today, find something or someone to smile at that has always made you smile. Today, find something that will make you giggle and let your inner child out to play. Remember, what you seek is not in the outer world; it is already inside of you. Start to clear away the negative blocks, so your true authentic self can come out to enjoy this wonderful thing we call life.
Sending you oodles of positivity, happiness and joy,
Laurie-ann Sheldrick, The Contagiously Positive Girl