Life is all about choices and choices can change. What you wear, what you eat, when you sleep, your thoughts, your attitude, who you spend time with, the cleanliness of your home, your beliefs, your values, your feelings, who you love – all of these are your choices. Some choices are harder than others and change isn’t always easy, but it is always your choice and the path to happiness is always worth the effort.
Pre-Contagiously Positive days, I learned how much power I actually had when I not only took control of how I wanted to feel, but chose to work on controlling my attitude towards external circumstances. Letting go of the belief that I had control over anything but my choices, my reactions and my feelings was a big hurdle and a great lesson. When I finally understood that I could not control what happens around me, but I could control my reaction and my attitude to those external circumstances, I became happier, more relaxed and realized I actually was powerful. The power was inside of me. By focusing on controlling my own inner reactions and attitudes, it had a major affect on those around me as well. I am not the only one with this power. Each and every one of you has it inside of you. The only thing you need to do to ignite it, is to make a choice to take 100% responsibility for your life. Here is how you can start, but first a personal story and how Contagiously Positive began.
Contagiously Positive Girl Is Born
After a few years of living in my new positive life, I was working at building my career. Unfortunately, I was in a toxic environment that was detouring me back into the darkness of Negative Ville. I struggled with not getting sucked into the negativity vortex and found myself again feeling unhappy. I thought that changing my career would be the key, but I knew better than to look without for I must find within. For a moment, I had forgotten that my attitude was my choice. Just because I am at work, doesn’t mean I should stop working on enhancing my desired feelings of being happy and living in joy. So I avoided the ‘I will be happy when I have trap’ and I reignited my inner compass and started to course correct back to Positive Ville.
When I did that, I realized that my job was not the problem, my attitude was. I was giving my power away to everyone around me by allowing their negative attitude to be so contagious that I was not only in the negative vortex with them, I was participating and adding to their negativity. To reignite my happiness and joy, I had to work towards choosing positive loving thoughts and make conscious choices not to allow external circumstances to affect my attitude, feelings and emotions. I also chose to no longer participate in the toxicity and be a part of the problem. I decided that I would focus on solutions and approach all problems with the mindset that we could, would and will solve it if we work together.
As the months went by, I was feeling happier, I was less stressed and things were working. The problems will still there, but they were being solved faster and from a much more positive place. I also became more proactive, instead reactive. I still wanted to change my career path, but I was now doing it from a positive space and enjoying the journey to figuring it all out. During that time, a magical thing happened. Without even realizing it, Contagiously Positive was about to be born. A subcontractor came up to me to talk about issues that we needed to deal with and he was in a mindset that there was nothing we could do to turn the project around. He wasn’t just stuck in Negative Ville, he had purchased the land and taken up permanent residence there. I could feel myself getting sucked in, so I focused on my feeling of wanting to be happy and I made a choice. I could make a left turn and go down the road of, ‘nothing will ever fix this’ being a part of the problem, having a very unhappy, stress-filled day, or I could look at it from a different perspective, make a right turn towards Happy Land, and be a part of the solution. Of course I chose Happy Land as it is so much prettier over there.
The miraculous moment came when he was staring at me with a really strange look. I asked him, “what’s wrong, why are you looking at me like that?” He said, “you are so contagiously positive. I want to be pissed off, but I can’t because your attitude is contagious.” We both laughed and that was the moment that I realized that my core-desired feelings of wanting to be happy, which I thought I was only for myself, and making the choice to take control of my attitude (my inner world) was actually changing the dynamic of other people around me (my external world). From that moment I knew that my inner compass was a gift. Go left and feel shitty, or go right and feel happy. Knowing that I only had those two choices, didn’t just help me be happier at my current job, it also helped me gain clarity on what I wanted to do next. I could never have done that if I had been making decisions solely from my negative emotions.
This doesn’t mean being happy when you suffer from a loss or something painful happens in your life. The point of this is not to eliminate or avoid all negative feelings. You still have to go through the ebb and flow of all emotions. However, You can tap into your inner compass when you are ready to move forward and make sure that you do not take up permanent residence in a world of toxicity and stress. All you have to do is take a moment and ask yourself, “should I go left, or should I go right?” Look at both options and remember, that you only ever have two choices. The choice is always yours. The way you want to feel, the next step you take, the way you react…it is all your choice.
Start To Unleash Your Inner Contagiously Positive Girl
You can start taking steps to unleashing your inner Contagiously Positive Girl and igniting your inner compass by going within. How are you letting external circumstances affect your inner wellbeing? Are you getting pissed off on your drive to work because of all the traffic, still angry when you arrive? Are you upset at the way your coworkers act, wondering how you can change them (which you can’t)? Are you participating in gossiping, and constant complaining? Is someone else’s bad attitude (energy vampires) draining you of all your energy? What can you do today to respond to something or someone in a more positive way?
Sending you oodles of positivity, happiness and joy,
Laurie-ann Sheldrick, The Contagiously Positive Girl